Why You Gotta Love Yourself First (Even After Heartbreak!)
Hey, friend! If you're here, I’m guessing your heart is feeling a little (or a lot) broken. First of all—big, big hugs. Heartbreak is HARD. It can make you feel like you’re not enough, like something is wrong with you, or like you’ll never be happy again. But guess what? That’s not true. And today, we’re gonna talk about something super important: self-worth—and why it’s the magic ingredient to bouncing back after heartbreak.
3/16/20252 min read
Why Does Heartbreak Make Us Feel So Bad?
When someone we love leaves, it can feel like they took a part of us with them. Suddenly, you might start wondering:
Was I not good enough?
Did I do something wrong?
Will I ever be loved again?
These thoughts can make your self-worth take a big hit. But here’s the truth: your worth has NOTHING to do with someone else’s decision to stay or leave. You are amazing, lovable, and enough—just as you are. And it’s time to remember that.
What is Self-Worth, anyway?
Self-worth is how much you value yourself—not because of what others think, but because YOU know you’re awesome. It’s that deep, unshakable belief that you are worthy of love, happiness, and all the good things in life. And the best part? Nobody can take it away from you—unless you let them.
How to Rebuild Your Self-Worth After a Breakup 💪
Losing someone can make you forget how amazing you are, but let’s get that sparkle back! Here’s how:
1. Stop the Mean Self-Talk
Would you talk to your best friend the way you talk to yourself? Probably not. So, no more “I’m not good enough” or “I’ll never find love.” Replace those thoughts with kindness and self-love. Try saying, “I am enough. I deserve love. I am healing.”
2. Remember What Makes You, YOU
You are so much more than someone’s ex. What are the things that make you special? Maybe it’s your sense of humor, your creativity, or how you light up a room when you walk in. Write a list of all the things you love about yourself and read it every day!
3. Do Things That Make You Feel Good
Self-worth grows when you treat yourself like someone who matters. So, do things that make you happy! Dance in your room, go for a walk, journal your feelings, eat your favorite dessert—whatever brings you joy.
4. Surround Yourself with Love
Hang out with people who lift you up. Your real friends and family will remind you how amazing you are. And if you need a little extra love, my FREE Self-Love Affirmations can help. Read them out loud daily or write them down in a journal and feel the good vibes soak in! (Grab them here).
5. Rewrite the Story
Instead of seeing this breakup as the end, see it as a fresh start. You are not broken. You are growing. And this is your chance to build the most loving, confident version of YOU. If you are ready to reset your self-worth and feel truly powerful again, my Self-Worth Reset audio-workshop 🎧 is waiting for you. It’s an audio-guided experience for your soul with a workbook and several of bonuses! (Check it out here).
Dear, you are worthy of BIG, beautiful love—but it starts with YOU loving yourself first. Heartbreak doesn’t define you. Your worth is not up for debate. And this is just the beginning of your most powerful, self-loving chapter yet. 💖
You got this! And I’m here to help every step of the way. 💕
-xxx- Entisar