Stop Stalking Your Ex and Do This Instead

Why is it so hard to let go of your ex?
When a relationship ends, it’s not just the person you’re losing—it’s the future you imagined with them. That dream you had together? It’s hard to let go.

Social media makes it even worse because it gives you constant access to their life. You see their updates, their new experiences, maybe even their new relationships—and that keeps you emotionally stuck. It’s like reopening a wound that’s trying to heal.

So, how do you break free? Let’s get into it.

#1: Set Boundaries with Social Media
The best way to stop stalking your ex is to limit your exposure to temptation.

Here’s what you can do:

✅ Unfollow or mute their profile – If you don’t see them, you won’t be tempted to check.
✅ Block them if necessary – This isn’t about being petty, it’s about protecting your peace.
✅ Remove reminders – If looking at old messages or pictures is keeping you stuck, delete them.

You don’t owe anyone access to your emotions, least of all an ex. Creating this space gives you the freedom to heal without constant reminders of what’s no longer in your life.

Takeaway: If it’s hurting you, it’s not helping you. Set those boundaries and stick to them.

#2: Replace the Habit with Something Positive
Let’s be honest—stalking your ex has become a habit. It’s a coping mechanism that gives you a false sense of control in an uncertain situation.

But instead of just trying to stop, you need to replace that action with something positive.

Next time you feel the urge to check their profile, pause and ask yourself:

👉 What can I do right now that will make me feel better, not worse?

Here are some ideas:

✨ Go for a run or take a walk.
✨ Write in a journal (but DON’T send a message to your ex!).
✨ Call or text a friend.
✨ Dive into a new hobby or passion project.

By replacing unhealthy habits with self-love practices, you shift your energy into something productive. Over time, the urge to check on them will fade, and you’ll be building a healthier mindset.

#3: Focus on Your Own Journey
Comparison is one of the biggest traps after a breakup. Seeing your ex move on, travel, or meet new people can trigger feelings of unworthiness. But here’s the truth:

👉 Their journey is NOT your journey.

Instead of putting your energy into wondering what they’re doing, channel that energy into building your own future. Ask yourself:

💡 What do I want my life to look like now?

This is your chance to grow, evolve, and become the best version of yourself. Here’s how:

✅ Set new goals – Career, fitness, personal growth… focus on YOU.
✅ Deepen friendships – Surround yourself with people who uplift and support you.
✅ Prioritize self-love – Your happiness is NOT tied to someone else’s social media profile—it’s inside YOU.

When you focus on your own path, you reclaim your power. You’re in control of your healing, your happiness, and your future.

Ready to Take the Next Step?

If you’re serious about moving on, I’ve got more resources to help you:

📘 FREE eBook: Download my Survival Guide for a Broken Heart for actionable steps to heal.

❤️ FREE Daily Self Love Affirmations: 10 powerful Affirmations to boost your self-love.

🎥 Subscribe and watch my videos on YouTube: More tips on self-love, healing, and rebuilding your life after a breakup or divorce.

Sending you all the love. 💖

-xxx- Entisar